Brainhi,you mentioned not having guts to change.......at times I wonder,maybe I just don't have guts to say enough is enough,not for my sake only,but for the sake of my kids,I don't want them to think this is what a marriage is.I can support myself and kids financially,I am sure,so I am unsure what is holding me back from telling him to learn to listen,even girls are telling me they wouldn't share because he wouldn't listen....It feels like I have suppressed my emotions for too long and I have difficult finding them now (positive or negative), i am on autopilot