Hi Mary,
That is a really good question. I sit here and think and look around and think and I can't think of anything. Except maybe Lego's. I have found I play with my nephews Lego's sometimes and they keep my hands busy.
I take Adderall Xr and it does help me too. I know about the Stop Light thing I seem to inch and inch on and off the brake little by little, but not as bad as I used to.
I have trouble with quiet rooms and paying attention to a speaker and not being able to talk. I think I end up tapping my fingers for awhile and rearranging my position a couple hundred times, moving my feet, shaking my leg, and looking around the room. It didn't used to be as difficult to focus though now I have been on 20mg of adderal xr and my T thinks maybe 30mg will be better next month.
I got off topic sorry anyway I don't know of any toys that I have only things that keep my hand busy like you said the stress balls you have squashed
Hope someone else might know Take it easy- Chris
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~KRIS~
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