Agreed. I hate hearing 'they are your parents, they put a roof over your head, you should be grateful that you were born, they did the best they could, etc.' How does a parent do the best they could when there was NO PROGRESS in making their lives and the kids' lives better? Lots of people shut up when I said that. My ex therapist tried to get me to agree that my mom "did the best she could." I went down memory lane with her (ex therapist): did my parents behave like parents? no. did they wanted to have kids because they love kids? no. they said we were a burden to them and just wanted kids to get more money in taxes and to be their little servants. mom had us to keep dad around i figured that out when i was 10 and my sister told me that mom told her that she had us to keep him, so she admitted it in the 70s (before i was born). my dad didn't wanna be home, he wanted to be with his *****s. he is a flat out narc to a T, enjoys making you upset and gloats, etc. I gave her a huge laundry list of what they DIDN'T do and ask the idiot ex therapist who is a mom herself 'does that sound like a set of real parents? loving ones?'

i couldn't make sense with this therapist i believe she has unresolved issues too. i asked her do you have a moral compass or something? how could you say two people are parents but did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for their kids? she sat there looking stupid! she has parental arrogance plus used biology in her arguments against me and told her 'does biology say anything about two people ready to be parents? it's proven a man and a woman have sex make a child, but are they physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially ready? she was quiet when i said that. i said this to a lot of people went over their heads, always had to argue with me saying i am a liar and wrong (i could tell by how these people spoke that their info came from what "society says and wanted" not using their own individual minds to think for themselves) saying "you have an obligation to your family."

i cut them off saying 'yea, once a upon a time, families had strong ties and you were put to shame if you didn't do stuff for your family. well, you are still put to shame now even today but at the same time others get an applause for not taking care of their families - a man cheats on his wife and it's still her fault.' i told my ex therapist (and other people) a huge long list of what my parents said and didn't do, it's always about "they are parents," what about what they DIDN'T do? nevermind if two idiots made children doesn't make them parents! she got very huffy about that guess it offended the ex therapist because she is married with kids!