Oh yeesh!

Parents sometimes...

I'm sorry Jacq, I know you don't find dealing with your family that much fun, just like me. I think you came up with a reasonable answer to your question - because you're right, trying to find a job in one place, moving and then trying to start over is just nuts! I guess I'm fortunate like that... my family doesn't want me home at all. Ever, ever, again to live.

Tell them that you don't want them paying for you (if that's at all true) and that you've made a commitment to staying where you are and you need to make enough money to live in your new place next year. (I couldn't get away with it, but if it helps then you could always lie about now getting a job recently and that you can't take time off work).

I don't remember if you've told me (I'm sorry, my memory is crummy because it's 7:15am) but does your family know about the therapy? If they do, can you somehow use that as an excuse, or have your therapist phone/email them saying that they don't think it's a good idea you went home for that extended period?

Did they give a reason as to why they "decided" that you should be going home for the holidays? Maybe they just miss you... it happens. Try to arrange for some time spent out there, a few weeks perhaps and see if that makes them happy.

I hate it when parents randomly decide your future for you. Definetely mucking up with autonomy there, and they're not exactly helping the situation because it's YOUR life and your decision.

If your still forced to move though ... wow, that would suck. I'm going to visit my extended family for about a month and I'm already worrying about it. And they're not even the difficult ones to deal with, that's definetely all my immediate family there!

(You knew I was going to have lots to say right??)

Give me a holler tonight (after 9pm) and we can chat. Otherwise I'm bothering you.

(((((((((((((((((((((My friend Jacq)))))))))))))))))))))))))))



I'm sorry this is happening to you.

(edit: correcting spelling)