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Originally Posted by wife22
Brainhi,you mentioned not having guts to change.......at times I wonder,maybe I just don't have guts to say enough is enough,not for my sake only,but for the sake of my kids,I don't want them to think this is what a marriage is.I can support myself and kids financially,I am sure,so I am unsure what is holding me back from telling him to learn to listen,even girls are telling me they wouldn't share because he wouldn't listen....It feels like I have suppressed my emotions for too long and I have difficult finding them now (positive or negative), i am on autopilot
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Your children will follow your lead. Get them help as well. Have them start learning the tools to cope with this situation and other situations as they encounter them in life. Show them that getting help is a SMART THING to do. If everyone is learning to cope with family life...maybe hubby will be interested in what your are doing, maybe not..but at least you and your children will be better equipped to deal with what lies ahead. This must be painful as well for you. I hope the pain does not last very long for you and the family. You need to feel your emotions - but IMO you need a professional to help.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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