I would not make "excuses" for him, just because he is having a hard time finding a job. There is no excuse for poor behavior? Being all supportive and understanding all the time is negating the truth; you are worried too and could use some support yourself! That is what marriage is about for me, being there together. If my husband were to suddenly be totally supportive, etc. and not "himself" with his own problems and ups and downs, I would feel like he was being condescending and "humoring" me and that would put me in a worse mood?