I struggle, yes I do. I struggle with the fact that my sexuality is defining me. I used to believe that being bisexual was just part of who I am. That my sexual preference and experience just added to an existing entity. Like adding a different spice to a meal...the underlying meal doesn't change, however there is a little more zing to it.

I always thought that within my life and marriage, that the gay part of me was that zing...making me a little more flavourful. But these days I feel like I'm making my sexuality the core ingredient to the meal...like "I'm gay but married" instead of "married but gay".