By now, your boyfriend knows good and well that you do not cheat. He throws that out just to have something to say. He is the one who is not committed to the relationship. He knows that, but he wants to put it on you.

For him to break up with you for 2 months for no reason, other than he needed time to think, shows that he is not whole heartedly committed. I don't think all the counseling in the world can make him feel what he doesn't feel. If he left you for 2 months to be with someone else, that would be awful, but it would not really be any worse than what he did do. He left you for 2 months to be with nobody. To me that says he would rather be with nobody than be with you.

So he came back, like he was doing you a favor. And he thinks romance is all "stupid." I don't think too many women would put up with him. You will, so my guess is he's going to stick around you. And he is going to test you to see just how much crap you will tolerate. That disappearance for 2 months was a test. You passed with flying colors because you thought you were lucky to get him back. Now he knows he's got you wrapped around his finger. You are in for a heck of a life with this guy. I'm sorry for you. It might be good for you to get some counseling just for yourself. You might explore why you are willing to settle for this.

Losing so much weight shows that you are mentally dependent on him in a way that is not healthy. Why you would be with a guy like this is really a big question. He is no prize. You were already told that what he does to you is emotional abuse. That person saw what was going on. You are with a guy who is not a loving person. No counselor can make him into one.

At age 25, you have your whole life ahead of you. If you dump him, you will be very lonely for awhile. The pain will feel bad, but it will be temporary. If you stay with him, which I believe you will, you are in for a lifetime of loneliness and mini-rejections that will come everyday. Maybe when that gets you discouraged enough, you will remember what I am telling you. He doesn't have the capacity to be the man you want him to be. It's not his fault. He is what he is. Things in his past probably made him that way. You know his history from childhood. You already probably know what led to him being this way. Maybe that's why you tolerate this stuff. You think you can love him into being what you want him to be. It doesn't work that way. What you see now is what you get.

Hasn't any of your family or friends told you the same thing? I know it's hard to hear. Maybe you are coming from a background where you were not treated very well, so you think there is nothing better out there. I'm sorry for you giving so much and getting back so little. One day you will ask yourself, "Why did I accept this?"