You're paranoid for a reason. Part of it is the above statement that speaks volumes to me. Sounds to me like you were reminded that you were a difficult child and I'm guessing in the form of letting you know just how much she did for you and does for you... emphasizing how much she did "support you".. I'm seeing here signs of that type of dynamic. You're paranoid possibly because you were born imperfect like everyone on earth and were raised by a ultra-critical mother, making you worry about your every move and behavior.