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Old Apr 14, 2014, 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End. View Post
The problem I have is mainly time and energy. I didn't really bother trying to date in master's and that's the easy graduate degree. And for my doctorate, I'll have an official minor area and several "unofficial", so I'm qualified in several areas just so I might have a chance to get a job. Maybe.

But if I'm not even going to bother trying to date anyone (or having friends for that matter), that's three more years of not getting any of my emotional needs met. But is there really any point? After three years, most likely I'll have to move in order to find employment and so there goes friendships/significant other that I may have at that time. If a significant other is able to move at the same time and can find employment within 50-100 miles of where I'm employed, then maybe it could work…but in this job market, I doubt that's possible.

So maybe just casually date, knowing that we'll have to break up after I graduate if we last that long (my longest "relationship" was 2 weeks and I've never had a relationship as an adult, so it's doubtful it would last that long anyway).

It just seems pointless to try to make friends/date until I graduate, find a job, and move, which will be in 3+ years. But I don't know if I can make it that long without bonding with another human being. I guess like in my Master's, I have the people I watch football with, but that's just part of the year…

And yes, I'll be around tons of people most of the time, but it's not about socializing with people, it's about developing meaningful relationships…

And if I have no chance to develop relationships in the next several years, why am I in therapy for help with that now? Wouldn't I wait until I was actually able to apply what I learn? I doubt I'm going to remember something three years (or more) later I learned but never used.
i think you're doing yourself a disservice by not even trying, it's always good to develop meaningful relationships & you never know how things are going to tun out. time and distance mean nothing, my ex i'm going to visit her in oregon and i live in ohio, going to try to work things out. she moved from oregon to live with me when we first got together.my best friend we met at a bar in michigan 10 yrs ago since that time he moved to florida, i moved to ohio & now he's in ohio & we hang out every weekend nowadays. go out in your free time, meet people, enjoy life. try not to put too many restrictions on yourself and you'll be a lot happier! hope this helps!
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