over the past few years i have been slowly unpicking the many reasons for my depression first i did what most people do and that is find someone to blame!!! my parents got the full force of it first my father then my mother ,there was a good reason for bashing them as they were abusive in many ways i unpicked my patterns through therapies,i still remained depressed even with all my insights,medication has helped me a little but the depression has never gone away.i then had a look at the company i keep most of these were depressives i am sort of locked in to depressive thinking when i think of friends old and new, what were they? --depressives or just plain miserable i now am thinking that i really need to put their negativity out of my life ,and hopefully i may improve.'like draws like' at times and my father is a depressive who was my first teacher! i am not going to lose my friends its just that it seems we were all wallowing in each others misery,it could be a sign too that i am getting better i'm 51 now i feel its a pity it has taken me so long to discover this i wonder if this is a common thread with people and depression?