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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
If you're flirting and not meaning anything by it, then I would consider this leading someone on but tbh I don't think you have. You clearly have met some guys that are needy and don't understand that people, especially women, can be there to lean on without wanting something more than just a friendship.
If you don't intentionally mislead, flirt and cause sexual tension, act romantically to someone, and they misunderstand your interactions, then you've done nothing wrong.
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Okay, first of all, thank you for taking the time to give me such a lengthy and detailed reply. It was definitely food for thought and has been very helpful and straightforward.
YES you are right. I think the guys I have met are needy. I have met those who aren't, so I know what you mean. Thank you for your kind words.
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
Again, I don't think that being supportive and encouraging is a bad thing and being there to be leaned on by someone is simply being a good friend. The thing that I would look at is NOT that part of the interaction but, if it is something YOU'RE doing, maybe it's how you interact, and behave, with regards to flirting etc. Are there things that you do that are more than being just friendly? Do you comment on their attractiveness, etc and not make it clear you're saying it as a friend? There are certain things you can do that would make a man think you're attracted to them. Those are the things that you should be looking at and backing away from.
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Well, I laugh and joke around to ease the tension, especially around strangers because I want them to like me and be comfortable around me. I don't comment on people's attractiveness at all. I keep those to myself. Great, now stems another question; HOW DO YOU FLIRT? Am I doing that without knowing it?
I guess it really depends on people. Some people may think I am when I laugh and joke with them, and some people may not. I don't think I act flirtatious around people....I just try my best to be friendly..
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
Depends on what your definition of nice is. Some women are more flirtatious by nature and will be more touchy, giggly... this can sometimes mislead a person if they don't know you well. Even if you are taht way I don't think you should change that so much as you need to make it clear up front that you're not interested in a relationship.
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My definition of nice is like...being friendly on the ideal level, like setting boundaries and yet approachable. But you're right, some people are by nature flirtatious and can have different notions of what's the ideal level. And yes, you are right, I should make it clear.
Thanks for your reply!!