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Originally Posted by PeachCream22
A trusted person I talked to today explained to me the differences between friendship and relationship. It wasn't that I asked or anything but our conversation somehow led that way as we talked about the mutual people in our circle. I realized something about myself.
Apparently I have always been too friendly to people, especially those of the opposite sex. I'd ask about their lives and try to lend them a shoulder to cry on whenever needed, and I'd try to make them feel better and I'd always welcome anybody to talk to me whenever they needed. I think I've been acting as if my life is psychcentral, or that I'm everyone's therapist, and that I don't know how to build friendship. I thought this was the only way to make friends and that I wanted people to know I was sincere in wanting to help, because to me, that seemed to be the only thing people needed most: someone to lean on. EMPHASIS on this with the OPPOSITE SEX. I do this to girls as well, but I guess it isn't right if I do it to guys.
Just wonder if I'd somehow led people on...without meaning to. What should I do to correct this? I'm not saying I attract a lot of people, but I might have attracted my ex before because of this. I got attracted to him too, but that's not the point. I just don't want this to happen again and hurt someone else in the future.
Maybe this is obvious to some people, but it certainly wasn't for me....it's hard to be a nice (on the ideal level) person.
Anyway...just sharing. Anyone's welcome to share their thoughts if they have any. Thanks for reading!
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it sounds like you are what is known as a TRUE FRIEND , sadly there are not enough people like yourself in this world. most people are extremely selfish and only care about themselves or what they can get out of other people.
you are indeed a rare treat, you should change nothing about yourself. if people take it the wrong way that is their problem.
there is no law against being a good caring person( although the way most people act nowadays you would think there is!) as long as you aren't doing sexually suggestive things, being an honest caring listener is a good thing and so rare nowadays i suspect this is why some people can't help but be attracted to you.
you will have to be honest with people that seem to be taking it the wrong way though, politely let them know you don't want to damage your friendship with them and you are not seeking a romantic relationship with them & that should clear up any misconceptions! hope this helps!
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