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Originally Posted by Hatter08
People always make the mistake of assuming that I'm shy. When people see me by myself, the advice they either give me is to 'not worry what people think about me' or to 'step out of my comfort zone.' The thing is I really don't care what people think about me at all, I don't feel shy when I talk to people, I just don't know what to say. The way I cope with this is to just try and get people to talk about themselves.
The problem I have here is that I just draw a blank when I'm talking to people. I don't want to be by myself but every time I talk to someone, it turns into me just listening to them talk, responding with 'yeah' every once in a while and a bunch of long awkward pauses. I really just don't know what to do and was also wondering if anyone has the same issue. I'm just getting tired of people assuming I'm shy or insecure. I just don't know what to say.
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i know this is probably going to sound stupid...but i'm going to say it anyway.
you can start by talking about the weather, it's something everyone cares about & i do this with strangers all the time. talk about things you are familiar with when talking to someone, say what's on your mind ( i wouldn't advise being rude!) ask questions, people that are talkative love answering questions..keeps the conversation going,talk about similar topics, no shortage of things to talk about these days i can go on and on all day and night.it sounds like you are more listening than engaging yourself in the conversation.
that will tend to make the other person run out of things to say or stop talking because they think you're not interested in what they are saying..hope this helps!
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