How did your husband treat his mother while she was alive? Did he talk about how wonderful she was then? Did he see her often? It almost sound to me that he is making her into a superwoman because she was not and he feels guilty about his true feelings.

I was very close to my father and was very sad when he died. I miss him like crazy and would give anythiing to have him back but I can't. After a year the loss should be easier to bear and he should be gettiing on with his life. He has fond memories of his mother which is good but he has to let the past go or he will have no future. Did he ever consider grief counseling?