Thanks to both of you for your responses. Tryingtosurvive, you are correct, my husband doesn't do any of those things you listed to deal with his grief. He's a preacher so he relies on God for his help. I guess I feel like he should turn to me for support but all I feel I do is just take care of his basic needs (cleaning, cooking,) and I don't feel that he feels I make an impact on his life like his mother did. I always feel like I'll never be as good as she is, and he will say that no one is as good as she is so that makes me feel bad as his wife. Maybe I'm blowing this out of proportion though but that's how I feel