Thanks. I am seeing a therapist both with him and on my own. It's hard to start looking at things in this new way when for so long, I just believed I was the problem. Other things have come up now, but even the new stuff he is blaming on me. I know it can't all be my fault, I KNOW that. But it's just hard to see things from another point of view. I am working on it though. I am working on myself in therapy. I am trying to learn to be assertive and stand up for myself. Funny thing is though, i am assertive in most situations, just not with him. I am not sure why. But yes, I do not want my children believing that this is ok, so something must be done now, and i am trying. Thank you!!