Thank you for the advice Hvert and Hankster. Is funny, I'm working on a book called "Building Self-Esteem using CBT". While I've always stood up got myself, it often results in conflict. The really wild part in going through the book is I found that as a kid, I figured out how to work the system so there was no need for me to rebel against my patents. Simply put, if I what was expected of me, I got to do what I wanted because my parents trusted me. Since I never rebelled, I never learned how to stand up for myself appropriately. The only time I had to was in a fight. Ergo, when I stand up for myself even if I don't mean to, I come across as confrontational.

So now I'm working on my body image despite what others say and trying to relearn standing up for myself.