My therapist has talked to me a lot about my "virtual question" and I always had difficulty to grasp what it means and how to find my virtual question, one that will help me look at things from a different perspective.
Before I got sick, my virtual question always was: "Will I ever be safe anywhere?" A question that lead to me moving around a lot, living a life on the run almost. I realized in my therapy that, had I changed my question to "What can I do to make myself (feel) safe?", I could have lived a much better life and many anxieties would have been less intense.

To me, my virtual question lately was "How much longer can I live?" And it did fill me with a lot of emotions, anxiety and fear. Because that question has an almost definite answer that I know I won't like. So no wonder I have been feeling on edge almost all the time. I have changed my question to "What can I do to fill the time I have with love, care, fulfillment and peace?" And things feel different for me, a little easier. Ok, not completely blissful, but with this question in mind I feel I have choices and opportunities, because there are many answers.

So I got the newsletter from PC today and the first article was about exactly that topic.
The Most Important Question We Can Ask is a Virtual Question | Healthy Romantic Relationships

What is your view on that?