Hey kipper,
I know that long term use of opiates for pain can actually make your pain worse in the long run. The body works up such a tolerance to them to the point of needing more and then more and then more to give you the same pain relief you had in the beginning with a smaller dose. Do you think this is what may have happened over the period of time you've been on the oxy's?
You are absolutely right about having to titrate down off the opiates over a good amount of time. Very hazardous to ones health and life if not done properly.
Sounds like you've got a lot going on in your life right now. I hope you are doing what you can to take care of yourself through your grief and life changes coming up. You deserve to be good to YOU!