I guess what I'm trying to ask is it possible to develop these skills while in grad school when I'm dedicating every waking hour to school. I don't see how I'd have time, but on the other hand, that's when I would need emotional support the most. It hurts to know, I'm one of the few grad students who isn't married, for example. No one will even date me because I'm "in the wrong stage of my life". So, if that's how people feel, what chance do I have to find someone? And when is the right stage of my life? It seems to be either right out of high school, right out of undergrad, or after working for several years. So, I guess I wait until I'm 35, then see if I'm "in the right place in my life" in order to be dateable. But then I'll be too "old"…I can see it now.