My mother had an affair with an Englishman, and I was the product of that union. When she was dying, she asked me if I could forgive her for this bipolar 1 disorder I'd received from him. I laughed out loud and told her what I want to say to all of you, "Mom my mental illness is about as much your fault as what I had for breakfast this morning". The point is this - we're all individuals with free will, and each of us must accept the results of our decisions. Americans love to blame everything and anything when something goes wrong. Your children may be in part your genetic contributions - but they are damn well the products of their own design!