I have been married to an ACOC for 22 years. I am the husband.

I could make list a few "issues/concerns" and people can go at it...or not..

1. We have not had sex for 8.5 months. You could call it a sexless marriage.
Even when we did have sex my wife basically was uncomfortable and awkward.
We only had sex in one position...which I liked actually...her on top. I think it made her feel in control and safe? In addition to being an ACOC she was physically abused by one of her 4 older brothers. Basically dad was drunk/asleep and mom was out working to support the family.......so she was an easy target

2. She has "let her body go" and she is so out of shape that I could not get an erection.
I have always wanted her to work out and stay in shape. She did this while we dated and in our first year of marriage but then it basically has been downhill since then.....her main excuse is........"you don't love me and want me to be a fitness model and I can never measure up to your idea of perfection".......which is totally bunk since I only have wanted her to stay in shape and be committed, like she promised me when we were in the engagement process.

3. To make matters worse I am bipolar II. I am on a medication that is basically like a miracle drug for me but I just got on it a few months ago. So........you can imagine a UNTREATED bipolar male with hyper-sexuality(if you don't know what that is....its basically my manic phase making me ridiculously horny and I am thinking about sex 24 hours a day) married to an ACOC.........it makes for a toxic mix!!

4. I guess the reason I am here is.......this drug has 100% taken away my depression and controlled my manic episodes so they are almost non existent .....EXCEPT for my hyper-sexuality. So you can image how I am doing.

In typical fashion my wife has not done any working out or dieting and "seems" as happy as a clam.....

I will stop there as that is already a mouthful.