I don't want to sound flippant, because I know how much something like this can hurt. Words are easy to say but difficult to follow. But, taking a chance on it coming out like a platitude, the first thing that came to my mind was the saying, "If the train doesn't stop at your station, it's not your train."

Yes, it's very easy to fall in love with the image or the fantasy rather than the actual person. Done that a few times. Here's pulling for you and wishing the best.