thank you for all the reply's,
because daughter wouldn't take the punishment of going to her room without a fight she is now band from using the PC unless for homework, this is quite a blow to her as she would spend most of her free time on msn talking to the people she goes to school with, again tonight she has begged to go on the PC but hasn't understood why she was banned in the first place, i have tried to explain but all she did was argue, being the youngest of four which two have forms of adhd/add i know its hard with siblings like these, and i try to treat them all fairly
i was brought up by my dad with my aunts influence, and can still remember being punished for things i didn't do, as i was the youngest of my family and my aunts children they would bully me into taking the blame for something, and i would get told of and then when aunt found i had lied i would get another telling of and if i grassed up my cousins i would get into trouble with them, so i try to be fair