Hi aka482, pain isn't discriminatory.....just because you have a job and a roof over your head doesn't make it any the less real for you. or any the less important. But being in or out of a relationship, having had or not had sex..............doesn't need to define who you are. You don't need to/shouldn't depend on someone else to define your identity (in whatever way) and no-one else should judge you on that either.
So there's a lot more to you than a relationship/your virginity, right?? And maybe focus a little more on those aspects, because it sounds like your neglecting seeing some of the other 100's of good things in your experience, in your achievements, in you.
As for a relationship, well there's nothing to say that one can't come along at some point. I don't think a relationship in itself is as important as someone who's really right for you though. And you know those kind of people don't come along "everyday". Hang in there for someone who is, it matters.
Sure you can maybe do "little" things to improve the chances, if you aren't already (??) e.g. trying to "get out there" more, getting involved in different activities, talking with more people/more regularly/more openly but don't let your focus be on "someone else" as much, allow it to be on you. And doing things that make you satisfied/happy.
And by the way all these displays of affection, talk about partners aren't always showing the "whole" picture. There aren't going to be that many relationships that are "perfect". There's always going to be "not so good" bits that you aren't seeing, so all the better to hang in there and one day find someone who's going to be nearer "perfect" for you than just anyone.
And if you think you're suffering from depression talk to someone about it, hey, talk to us more about it if it may help.
Alison