>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>"I am presently trying to uncover a way to either solve this issue or to work around it (as to live with it in peace for all concerned) - since it does not seem as though she (my last complete alter, not a fragment) is not leaving any time soon - maybe NEVER for there is a very fine line that separates her and me, and we are so similar in many ways that it is often hard for me to tell IF it is her or me that is present or having feelings during certain times... but we are getting there."<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

Okay, sorry for the wait between posts but I am really thinking about how you're dealing with this. So, tell me, it seems as though there may have been some success in "solving" other alters am I right? Are the same methods/techniques not working for this alter?

I would venture, imo, that this alter is so significant to you that there may be great fear in letting her go peacfully. Can you identify ANY part of you that is still kind of holding onto her? Maybe out of fear or comfort or even because you like bits about her?

I have a bit more to say so I will be adding to or posting another about what you've said above.....