I have an issue. Well lots actually but one that just keeps coming back and never gets any closure. I require closure to move on.

My wife and I are both divorced and then we found each other. We have a total of 5 children. A difficult family situation to say the least, yours, mine and ours.

Here is my problem. No matter what happens my wife refuses to apologize..... well let me rephrase that..... she has apologized twice but both times she said`I am sorry you feel that way`. This is a game changer for me. It takes me weeks to forgive when I don`t think the other party (my wife) is at least willing to take some responsibility.

I apologize all the time. I aoplogize to my kids, coworkers, wife, you it I have probabley apologized to it..... heck my dog. For me it comes naturally..... IMHO it helps others see that I take responsibilty for at least part of what has happened so that WE can move on..... so that we can have some conflict resolution.

The fact that my wife will not apologize enrages me sometimes. It makes me feel that I am the only one at fault for everything. And when I am enraged I have difficulty keeping my cool. I know that doesn`t help the situation but I have difficulties controlling myself because of how angry I get. I have explained this to her, I have tried couples therapy and nothibng to this point will help her to understand how I feel. How this all is making our lives difficult.