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Originally Posted by rouge198
That's what I've been saying. He agrees. It's the long distance that's the problem. We had therapy immediately following the affair but our therapist was my individual therapist and it became clear that she was invested in us breaking up.
I guess I don't understand privacy in relationships. I very easily tell him everything.
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I hear you, about asking where privacy lines are drawn, and how considering your past with him, therapy is just another hidden aspect of himself.
Where T is concerned, I've read so much, where it's almost a moral dilemma to disclose, whilst in a relationship or even starting a new one. I lucked out with my current relationship, as there was full disclosure even before a romantic endeavor was pursued. Even a very deep outing of my past, in open, before relationship talks began, and vice versa. Depression/anxiety/past hurts, everything all out in the open.
Privacy, however, to me involves not hen pecking, which is what I need in return. Transparency is, a given, as it builds trust. Every waking moment accounted for, on the other hand, I cannot take another one of those relationships, too battle scarred to ever consider pulling that on him. Consistency builds trust. Honesty builds trust.
Was it more that your fiancé waited two months or the manner he expressed it with what shaky foundation that you have?
If I weren't involved, I feel, being forthcoming about therapy, would take alot. Most in my life, would never guess the amount of years, I've been in therapy or that I even see a PDoc.
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