You're right, actually, I do expect the truth all the time and I do not always respond well to it. Still I feel like he should tell me as I always tell him the truth - even when I know he will be upset by it. That said, your point about him telling me about the therapy on his timeline really resonated with me. I hadn't thought about this until now but this is actually one of only two times that he admitted something without me questioning out of suspicion. His behavior seems to have changed though so, in retrospect, I guess I noticed the effects of therapy before he told me. I digress.

Yesterday after our argument, he asked me how I could turn him telling me about therapy into something bad and then said that most of our problems stem from me not seeing him as a good person. He went on to say that he is a great person and I told him that I don't think that is true because he has lied too many times for it to be. He seemed hurt by that and said he also didn't tell me that he did seek help regarding his infidelity from friends and that they told him he was wrong to hurt me. I had long accused him of hiding his mistakes from his friends so that he looks good at all times.

What I don't get is what he admitted those things so late. Maybe it is as you've said and he doesn't feel like I can handle truth. He has said as much and mentioned that I thanked him for telling me about therapy only after I voiced displeasure with him for not telling me sooner.

I would have given him the opportunity to tell me but he says I don't reward him for truth and that he figures since I won't he has no incentive to keep giving it to me. So then he is naturally a liar and I am ask him to go against his nature? You shouldn't need incentive to be honest.

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