lol. good on you for emailing him.

> I don't know what I'm doing or how. I don't know if it's my problem or his.

i suspect... the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle ;-)

> I do know that I have hurt his 'ego' in the past

do you remember what you did?

> he told me it was because I hit home with the truth.

sometimes it can be the *way* it is expressed more than *what* was expressed...

> He said it was okay. I did appreciate that he let me know and that I saw his reaction. I'm not sure why that was important, but it was.

Maybe because he is able to be in touch with his own feelings / responses (which is fairly admirable) and also honest enough to be upfront with you (which is something that I really value too). Also... He is able to take an ego injury and compose himself (and not retaliate or get really worked up about it). So... You didn't kill him with your honesty ;-) Good to know that ;-) And the fact that he did feel hurt shows that he does care about your opinion of him as well. Which is kinda cool :-)

> I think I may do it because I want his attention and maybe because I'm punishing him in place of my father? Looking at that statement I see again how I do this push away and then pull kind of thing to people in my relationships - or at least in this one.

Yeah, I hear you.

Can you remember what happened the time you hurt his ego?