that is so true. my ex therapist has background in abuse and trauma i said you don't need a book to tell you that. she and other people try to use 'oh, the reason why it keeps happening over and over is because they don't know any better. your parents probably don't realize what they are doing is abusive.' really?!? when the abuse keeps happening over and over, nothing is done that just gets dusted under the rug. she said we are not dusting anything under the rug i said i'm not but you and everybody else are! there was more excusing and dusting crap under the rug than actually anything else. instead of being upset with people like my parents and really saying what they truly are, they may "hurt my feelings," i said no it won't lol!

i get tired of hearing that crap of 'the abusers don't know what they are doing or don't realize it's abuse,' yes they do they know exactly what they're doing! that is what my idiot ex therapist tried to use i said give me a break, are you really that gullible yet your background IS in abuse?!? she didn't like it when i questioned her credentials oh well lots of people who say off the wall crap need to have their credentials be checked out!

"he or she wasn't that bad," is a person suppose to let out a sigh and be grateful? ugh, i hate that garbage! i told people 'not that bad huh? am i suppose to be grateful?' you should hear the responses i get and how i get these people in a bind! my ex therapist was in a bind and told her you are not making any sense are you telling me honestly that a victim should be at least grateful? the question got harder for her she said no, but they are still your parents.....' again, watering it down even more didn't even answer the question!

i said to my ex therapist in a way that comparing my issue to someone else's issue saying another person could had it worse than me is also abusing me and discounting what i went through. she got quiet i said you do realize that is abusive right? you don't need a book to tell you that! funny, she tells me my perception is off. nope, my perception is just fine it's her and other people's perceptions that are off living in fantasy land!