Hi ak482, OK total honesty, right!! I'm not going to say that "I respect" the fact that you you haven't lost your virginity, afterall I don't even know the whole story anyway.
And, yes, you're right a lot of people have lost theirs by now. But I am going to say that, in my eyes, if someone hadn't lost their virginity by.....age, it really wouldn't matter/make them any less!!
And if they hadn't then I wouldn't be thinking the things you're thinking about yourself, about them e.g. that they're a pitiful loser, pathetic.........I really wouldn't!!
And I can't be the only one thinking like that.
And that is total honesty!!
Now it sounds like you have/you've had people in your life (men and women?) who haven't helped with your self esteem/image?? If so, maybe your main focus should be on either trying to dismiss their comments/attitudes (?) as they should be, or on trying to distance yourself from those people.
And you know depression can really bring you "down" on yourself/bring along it's own negative thought patterns which isn't going to be helping the way you feel about yourself. Are you getting any help with that e.g. with a pdoc or therapist? Or do you think you could do with some more help? Maybe worth a thought?
Although we're still here as well if you want to talk more........
Alison