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Old Apr 19, 2014, 03:27 PM
scififanboy scififanboy is offline
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Originally Posted by StrongerMan View Post
High Bluedove,

I read a bit of Branden and I can equate his idea of self esteem to the work I have been reading on shame or shame-based people . Shame-based being driven largely by a profound lack of self esteem or worthiness. Both are self perpetuating. I would define self esteem as the ability to place inherent value in oneself. And I feel shame-based people are simply unable to do this to a large extent.
I can relate to this a bit. I know I did let down almost everybody I met.
Relatives and GFs and friends and work mates. I even deceived them
and myself. I did not know who I really am or where. I do feel shame
being that deceived by my body and acting in a deceptive way.

The only relief is that I had no clue about it. I did notdo it knowingly as if that help.