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Originally Posted by newgal2
Today, for example, he wanted me to help with yard work. I was out there removing leaves from the rosebushes and doing some raking but after a half hour, I was just finished. Couldn't keep focused or interested. Plus, I'm not in that good of shape and my muscles were really starting to hurt. I have fibromyalgia too, and I am always worried if I exert myself that I'll into a flare. He said whatever I could do was fine, but I wonder if he really thinks I'm just being lazy instead of depressed . . . I want to go watch t.v. now, but I feel guilty because he's outside doing yard work. Ugh!!!!!
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This I can relate to. Both my T and wife have noted that I have burst of fire/determination.... but that it fizzles out pretty quickly. As such it's agreed that when helping, I do so in bursts (15 min slots)... I simply can't seem to sustain it for much longer than that, my attention wanders down the low route quite quick and I get tired very fast.
Used to infuriate my wife... but as she started to understand a bit more, she has started to accommodate and work round the limitations.
On the flip side, I do insist on helping as much as I can... it's a partnership after all and I acknowledge that to show her that 1. I appreciate her and 2. to limit any fallout due to stress (one person doing all the work)... so even when my world feels like it's crashing down, I do try to make some effort... hard going in the bad times
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