There is so much that what you have written here brings to my own mind. I dare not attempt to put it all together, but there may be something of value in what follows:
Megalomania -Megalomania is a psychopathological disorder where in the person experiences delusional fantasies of greatness, wealth, grandeur, omnipotence and superiority. (Google Search, definition)
"'Why don't you, yes but' is the game most commonly played at parties and groups of all kind, including Psychotherapy groups." (Eric Bernes, Games People Play)
Script Pattern: After; Sentence Pattern: + -; Drivers: Please me, hurry up.
(Stan Woollams, Michael Brown, The Total Handbook of Transactional Analysis)
These are just puzzle pieces of the picture your words are painting, they are just recollections of things I have read.