It does not sound like you actually know any older men but are talking about "public" figures. They are not what we see on TV or read about. My first serious love (in my mid-20s) was a man 20 years older than I was and looking back on it now, it was helpful to my development but not something that would have worked in my life long-term. Teenage boys can mature slower than girls so it might take a few years to find someone interesting closer to one's own age. It is harder with someone much older/younger as background and references are different. My husband is 7 years older than I am and even that has had some disappointments/limits because of age. The stage of life someone older/younger is in is different and can make a difference.