Thank you. it really did go well. Just still feel confused inside but I think you raise some very good questions though. Painfully , I may still wonder what to do about hurt but I wish I could just dig a hole and place the hurt in it and go on from there. She really doen't even know that I have been feeling this way. I do not think that telling her would be good but maybe going on from there would and then if hurts arrive addressing them in a timely fashion . Thank you for such a good answer.