I actually ask my T to talk about me to my pdoc, so my pdoc can get a better idea, clinically, of my symptoms and what's going on with me. I tend to shut down a bit during my pdoc appointments and I "forget" to tell him pretty important stuff.

I totally understand what you mean about the gossip factor. Although I request for them to talk to each other, of course I'm wondering: What are they saying? Are they agreeing that I'm too far gone and way beyond any help they can offer? lol. I wish I could be a fly on the wall when they discuss my case.