I can identify with what you wrote. My mum and dad both have bad tempers. When I lived at home I was always quite afraid of upsetting them and provoking the temper. Gradually my mum became worse as I became more independent. I think she realised that she was slowly loosing control, and she tried desperately to cling onto it. Certainly she didn't like the idea of me finding a girlfriend. Eventually I left home, but not until I was around 27. By then things were almost unbearable. I think that conflict can often develop between a teenage girl and their mother... From the title of your post it seems that kind of event not a uncommon? May I ask, does your mum try to organise your life and/or get overly involved in your personal affairs?