I have experiences of a lifetime on this subject but I've had enough emotion today to last for a long time. But I would like to offer a resource that is very near and dear to me. I have kept this original article for twenty two years.

It was as if it came through my lips, as it mirrors how I've felt many, many times and is very pertinent to this thread.

It helped prepare and empower me to face difficult times with family dynamics, parole hearings, secondary trauma, college speeches, candle light vigils....just many times when I was alone in how I felt and needed to gather inner strength, this article was my source for that. If it can help anyone else , I'm glad to share what helped me for many years.

http://members.tripod.com/~jillheather/remains.htm