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Originally Posted by aqsam
I read your reply for like 5 times and had my blood screaming in my veins.  You are right. I need balance. How? I have no idea. But now as I am trying to understand the problem, I have hope that sooner I'll start getting better. As the first step, I have already started following a time table, (though I still can't help staring at his name when he is online and waiting when he says Hi  ) But like you said, "A relationship isn't about being someone's reason to breath, nobody's life should revolve around another's."  Thank you so much. I hope it'll help me. God Bless. |
I'm sorry if my response seemed a bit harsh, but I find that it isn't always helpful to dress up the truth in pretty bows and glitter
I'm glad that after a few tries you could identify that I was only trying to help, and even happier still that you are trying to apply what I said.
I know it's not easy, but with practice, it does become a more natural response / reaction and balance starts to develop.
Annd like we both agree, balance is important, whether either of us like it or not
Sometimes its really hard for me and I have to take it to the extreme and put my phone away in a drawer, so no, I don't always have it figured out, but my relationship is much healthier since I've been making an effort to be an individual independant of my boyfriend.
And with him knowing this does not come naturally and appreciating my efforts, it just adds that little cherry on the cake for me.
I hope your timetable helps you, and maybe you can even start a thread on methods to create and maintain balance, and we can all help eachother out with tips and tricks we've learned.
