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Originally Posted by Sadley
It's difficult for me to explain...I'm not sure why I"m depressed. But yeah, you're right, I have to not spend so much time with her. It is extremely difficult. She has a difficult time just waiting for the weekends. Sigh... even just talking about the whole thing now makes me even more depressed. Ugh I hate my life. It depresses me that she would put herself into a situation where she would have to be so drunk that she doesn't care about what she's doing to have sex. And I'm a very jealous person, I don't know what it is but I feel jealous that she would let a guy who is no good do that.
She doesn't think sex of as big a deal as I do. It is important to me, I think it should be something special. She always tells me, "its just sex". I don't know why but I am disturbed by it.
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You two have opposing views on a fundamental issue, so some conflict is expected when there's no middle ground.
Maybe talking some more on the topic of how special sex AND intimacy is versus how it may be viewed as a purely physical act will put your mind at ease...
Perhaps she views sex outside of being in a loving relationship as no big deal, but places more value on it within a relationship.
If that's the case, then you two have some firm middle ground on which to meet.
If not and she has a completely differing view to yours, then you may want to explore which other relationship fundamentals you two disagree on and then evaluate whether the relationship is worth holding onto.