Could he have some sort of a fear of intimacy?

My 2nd husband did and sex with him was a disaster. Of course, it could be that he was just using me forother purposes....I'm at the point to where I think I will never know. I hired a PI to get to the truth, but he ripped me off. I kind of gave up and turned it over to God and let it go.

Anyway, some men do have a fear of intimacy. I'm not sure what the cause is, but it is a battle that is almost impossible to overcome without some kind of help. My ex was never willing to go to counceling, so ours was a doomed marriage in more ways than one.

It sounds like you do have it on your side that he is genuinely an awesome man other than the sex issues....perhaps gently asking him to explore the possibility of fear of intimacy and possible coumceling might be worth a shot. I sense that this relationship is salvageable. I hope things get better for you.