hi rambler
im a social worker. I think your confidence will grow as you continue to work with your clients. I think the act rule would work in this situation. a-accept feelings, c-communicate the rule, t-target a positive choice. so when the client is breaking the rule or out of line you accept their feelings...I know you like to ........ then you communicate the rule...but the rule is...then you target a positive choice...how about you... for kids it would sound like this..i know you like to have fun, but the rule is you have to finish your homework before video games. why don't you complete your homework and then you can play games for the rest of the night. so you are accepting that they want to do something that makes them feel good, communicating the rule to them, and then redirecting them to do something that will hopefully get both your needs met. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome