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Originally Posted by Perna
Your "when" bothers me. It's your life and you're the only one in it? I'm a very slow learner of some things and other things, I don't understand why other people have trouble with them since I don't  But I kind of gave up on the lock-step everyone move from grade-to-grade together along with a few other of my family-of-origin barn raising mandates when I got to my 40s I think. It did take me a longish time to "get it", I was 41 before I got studying/school and could succeed there at will. |
I don't succeed ever, though others do. So it seems. That means I am a failure, "wrong", and the others are "right". So I should be like them. Forget what I think, what I am, and try to be like them. Try to
be them.
That is a lesson I think I learned early in life. The person I actually am is not acceptable. Not acceptable to my mother, and to numerous others throughout my life (including therapists). And we know acceptance is important to humans.