I really think people are discounting the value and power of the negative introject here. Other people can sense it in you. They might see it as a mean streak. It isnt really you, its your internalization of a negative influence in your life. But other people do see it as you. But since it isnt really you, you can get rid of it, with effort and maybe therapy. But it does feel unfair to be blamed for it - its not really you. Google it.