I think it's usually hard to get over past hurts. I gather that yours much have been very painful.

I got some great therapy to help me deal with a painful past, and I am really glad I did. I suggest that you check into that approach, too. It's sad to keep having our current lives affected by something that happened a long time ago. I know how that is.

You are right that it is best to try to deal with things when they happen. That's one reason why I continue in therapy.