Just wanting to say that I feel the same way about how you've said you get abused by 90% of people no matter how hard you've tried. I have been seen the same way like you as emotionless or aloof by a lot of people, even people I have met them for the first time in my life.

What I realize is that sometimes people just discriminate. Some people will discriminate because of the way you look, the way you dress. And this is something I am trying to be at peace with.

Then, sometimes, some people are not comfortable with those who don't show emotions during a conversation.

I have one coworker who can't cope with people who don't show much emotions in interactions and he blames me for his inability to cope. I was hurt by the way he talked to me and calling me name when he externalized his negative feelings and I thought, "can he be more rude, antagonistic, self-centered and self righteous???", "wow, I can't believe an adult bully has just emerged in front of me, can't believe he never outgrows schools!"

So, naturally, I have to tell myself that:
There's nothing I can do about him except to tell myself that he's an A-hole, don't label myself emotionless or aloof because I know I have feelings and don't let this superficial label, which doesn't even based on accuracy, ruin my day, remember that my coworker has tons of unresolved personality issues and is probably struggling to deal with them, remember not to let him use me as a scapegoat for his problems, remember that he is the one who can't accept someone being different, and remember that he is not those incredibly understanding and empathic types.

Well, anyway, turns out my other coworkers also think he has poor interpersonal skills and they have been screamed at by him before. They have also experienced the times when he can't accept something and he just turns belligerent at people.