Teenagers can be belligerent as it is. What is your husbands opinion on how he would like to see you handle this? I'm sure, some part could be the same sex relationship, and the dynamics of wanting acceptance, on your daughters part. Yet, deep down, it's truly about how respect needs to be given to be received. Could say, you'll take the high road and have a conversation that states that perhaps things got off to a rocky start. Explain the specific behavior that rubbed you wrong. And move on from there. Your husband needs to be in your corner, too.